tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5596708332568087278.post6297328662134036121..comments2024-01-24T10:39:27.668-05:00Comments on Coming Untrue: Too Hot to Handle: Objectively BadDr. S. L. Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06303707167715370504noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5596708332568087278.post-74573034568535964492016-01-22T22:38:55.134-05:002016-01-22T22:38:55.134-05:00All the things you point out (disinterest, self-ce...All the things you point out (disinterest, self-centeredness, poor judgement, misplaced priorities, lacking a sense of responsibility) are definite problems that lead to poor parenting. And I think it's actually pretty easy to recognize poor parenting on the basis of bad regular habits like the ones you suggest.<br /><br />Good parenting, on the other hand, is a lot tougher. I mean, where is the cut-off point? Can you say because your kid is obedient at 16 that you've been a good parent? He might be a terror at 23. <br /><br />All of it is, at best, a work in progress, and it seems to me we are better to leave the final judgment of our performance as parents to the Lord.Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00346761712248157930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5596708332568087278.post-84279681320244299852016-01-22T22:04:54.110-05:002016-01-22T22:04:54.110-05:00"... of whether I have been a 'good dad&#..."... of whether I have been a 'good dad' or whether Rachel will be a 'good mom'? Poppycock, I say. We have no means of knowing such a thing.'"<br /><br />I think you are overstating that a bit.<br /><br />Of course we have means of knowing that, in two ways even. First, as a parent you can observe the end result of your efforts by how your kids turn out, and second, the end result is capable of telling you that you have done a good job and that that is very much appreciated. And as a grandparent you will then see that your efforts will continue to produce good moms and dads.<br /><br />Naturally, there can sometimes be things not within your control (driven by your kid's free will and/or external circumstances) but you can still judge whether or not you acted rightly. As a matter of fact, I see it as a main problem that many parents are not able to assess, or are not interested in assessing, their own actions with regard to how they discharged their responsibility of child rearing. This is a serious lack of self awareness that may extend to other areas in their life as well. Synonyms might be disinterest, self-centeredness, poor judgement, misplaced priorities, lacking a sense of responsibility, and so on. Those are actually the things that produce poor parenting and that we all must continually address in our life to become successful parents.Qmannoreply@blogger.com