“And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together.”The words “hold together” here are most frequently translated “commend”, or literally “stand with”, and are used of a confirming testimony; that which supports or substantiates something that might otherwise be less solid or demonstrable. The KJV says, “in him all things consist”, which is fine, as long as we don’t conjure the image of the Lord Jesus as some vast being with everything else inside him, because that is not what the apostle is emphasizing here. Rather, he affirms here what is said in Hebrews about the Son; that he “upholds all things by the word of his power”.
(Colossians 1:17)
He is the “confirming force” of the universe; what makes all
things cohere. Not being a scientist, I’ll stop there, though I’m quite sure
scientifically trained Christians (not Christian Scientists) might have much to
say on how that works out practically.
No, I’m thinking about human relationships and the way we
communicate.
I used to take great delight in my facility with language, a skill developed largely because my father read to us incessantly as children: Lewis, Tolkien and other writers consistently ‘above our level’. As a result, we paid little attention to grammar lessons in school; they were largely redundant. We didn’t need to know a word was a gerund or an adjective to use it aptly in a sentence or to spell it correctly. Such things were innate.
You know the old saw: “To a man with a hammer, everything
looks like a nail”. I figured language was the key to pretty much everything. If
one were only logical enough, if one could only make a convincing argument,
then everything was potentially within one’s grasp. You could manipulate, coax,
coerce or persuade anyone to do just about anything you wanted.
The power of persuasion worked on my brothers. Sometimes. It
worked on a few of my more impressionable friends. But try to imagine my
disappointment when I began trying to relate to girls. There are, quite
literally, no words to describe the magnitude of my failures in that arena as a
teenager, largely because I’m too embarrassed to think them, let alone write
about them.
I came to understand eventually that employing words,
however ably, is very different than communicating.
The Limitations of
Language
The older I get, the less and less stock I put in language.
Oh, language can be a supremely effective communication tool. It might be the
best tool we have. But it has limitations:
·
People must agree on the definitions of words or
we talk right past each other.
·
In order for an intellectual argument to be effective its
hearers must be taught or intuit basic principles of logic.
·
To certain listeners, tone and manner are often
more important than content (**cough** President Obama **cough**). The wrong
tone or attitude can be so off-putting that the speaker’s argument remains
unheard while a more appealing manner can often successfully soft sell utter rubbish.
·
Unless we constantly question our own assumptions about meaning, and unless we
listen more than we talk, those assumptions can deafen us to
what others are actually saying and make what we say next to impossible for others to
follow.
·
Education makes some people entirely
incomprehensible to anyone but their peers (or perhaps just plain
incomprehensible).
· People don’t always say what
they mean. In a sense, House was right: Everybody lies. Not so much that we all
actively seek to deceive at all times, but that considerations like social
graces, political correctness, polity or fear of disapproval often cause us to
say things we don’t mean and to fail to say what we do. This is especially true
even in the most intimate relationships. The higher the stakes, the more
difficult it is to risk telling the exact truth.
Given the potential stumbling blocks, how humans communicate
at all, even in the limited way we do, is genuinely astonishing.
Where am I going with this?
Christ and
Relationships
Well, unsurprisingly, in Christ “all things hold together”,
even relationships. Sadly, this is not always true of our relationships with
those who do not know the Lord Jesus. He himself said, “I have come to set a
man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a
daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.”
It is understandable that it would be this way: Outside of
Christ, there is no real way to communicate effectively beyond that which is
simply natural. We may for a time feel like we’re connecting. Sometimes Christians
and unbelievers get lucky and actually find common ground for a few moments. But
then the word of God comes up and we realize we’re talking to a person with,
well, something missing; an inability to grasp that which is basic and
intuitive to us as followers of Christ. We are told, “The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he
is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned”.
The things that mean the most to me get no traction in the
hearts of my unsaved friends, apart, that is, from the working of the Spirit of
God.
But in the hearts of believers, by his Holy Spirit, the Lord
has placed a common language: “He will guide you into all the truth”, the
Lord told his disciples. In Christ there is a means by which two or more believers
may speak to one another intelligibly, with genuine shared understanding.
The Spirit of Christ is the antidote to the Tower of Babel. In him all things become coherent.
The Spirit of Christ is the antidote to the Tower of Babel. In him all things become coherent.
That doesn’t mean Christians always communicate perfectly.
Sometimes, sadly, sin, culture, self or stupidity intrude and we miscommunicate
horribly. But in Christ the potential for true understanding is always there
just waiting to be allowed to illuminate our minds, hearts and emotions.
I’ve had some phone conversations with Christians in the
last few weeks that made my heart sing (forgive the antiquated image, but there
just isn’t a better one; I was actually feeling music).
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