“Have you but one blessing, my father?”
Mature Christians will tell you the answer to every problem
in life is Christ. They are not wrong. The most complex interpersonal
disasters, the most dysfunctional families, the biggest crimes and misdemeanors
and all the fallout that comes from them — in one way or another, Jesus
Christ is the answer to all these things.
When you have smashed all the dishes, Christ is the answer.
But he will not mend them for you and put them back on the shelf. When you have
blown up your marriage, Christ is the answer. But he may not magically
transform your ex-husband into your best friend. When you have raised an
ungrateful, spoiled, crazy child, Christ is definitely the answer. The child
may still decide to go to hell.
These are hard realities we face every day. For most of them
the world offers no viable solutions. Christ is always and only the answer. But
he is not always the answer in precisely the same way, and he does not come
with a bag of magic tricks or a rainbow sprinkle of fairy dust to make everything
copacetic on demand.
Wasted Potential
Esau had well and truly trashed his life. He had wasted his
God-given potential. He was spiritually insensate, and his dullness came out in
everything he did. His brother Jacob negotiated him right out of his
birthright, but that was all his fault. Esau was the one who despised the blessings of God and preferred a bowl of lentils.
But Esau also had some serious dirt done to him by Jacob for
which he was not responsible. Jacob stole his father’s blessing by pretending
to be his brother, and when Esau found out, he was greatly grieved. “Have you
but one blessing, my father? Bless me also,” he cried.
His father had indeed reserved a blessing of sorts:
“Behold, away from the fatness of the earth shall your dwelling be, and away from the dew of heaven on high. By your sword you shall live, and you shall serve your brother; but when you grow restless you shall break his yoke from your neck.”
It wasn’t the ideal. It wasn’t what Esau had expected or had
been entitled to by birth. But it also wasn’t nothing.
Smidgens of Grace?
Hey, we are grateful for even smidgens of grace when things
are tough. But when we have really, genuinely repented, why doesn’t God mend
the dishes and put them back on the shelf? Why can’t we have things back the
way they were? Why couldn’t Esau ever get that blessing and birthright back?
Well, in a world where actions have no real consequences, I’m
sure we could. In a world where our choices and those of others — crazily
spontaneous, well-considered, moral and immoral — meant nothing at all, I suppose
we could just time-warp back to the spot where we went wrong and play the whole
thing out again right this time. In a world where God only pretended to grant
authority but in reality reserved the right to overturn every single decision
we ever made that didn’t please him, I have no doubt the dishes would
still be sitting on the shelf undisturbed. Maybe our memories would be wiped
too, so that we wouldn’t feel regret or grief for all the mistakes we have made
and all the mistakes others have made for us.
Would you like to live in a world like that? You’d lose a
lot of hurt and sorrow in the bargain.
That Not-So-Perfect Perfect World
But I’m not so sure I would. In that world, nobody ever
learns anything. Nobody participates. Nobody grows. Nobody submits, because
nobody really has a choice about it. In that world, nobody develops the ability
to resist evil. Why would you fight it? Evil has no sting. In that world, nobody
sacrifices for anyone else, because the outcome is no different when you don’t
than when you do. Nobody becomes like Christ because Christ-likeness has been effectively
imposed by fiat — except of course the aspect of Christ-likeness that
involves intelligent decision-making, voluntarily doing the will of the Father,
meriting reward or approval ... all these are effectively done away with
in a world in which God pushes the reset button every time we fail and
patiently fixes every mistake we have ever made.
And anyway, whether we’d like to or not, that’s not the
world we live in. In our world, Christ is the answer, but not always in
the most obvious way.
Not-Fixing the Dishes
So maybe Christ does not fix the dishes. The new set is not
so bad, and you have now learned the futility of hurling the crockery around the
room. Sometimes when you see them sitting on the shelf, you find yourself thinking
Hey, I don’t do that anymore ...
So maybe Christ does not fix your broken marriage, but he
enables you to learn from it. He gives you the grace to ask forgiveness for
your part in it. He makes you grateful for the good things you have despite it.
He equips you to relate to others more graciously, more lovingly, and more
sacrificially, even if you happen to live alone. He gives you his wisdom to
share with others so they don’t make the same mistakes you did. He fills your
time with different things; some better, some worse, but all different.
And maybe Christ does not go back and forcibly undo years of
awful parenting. But Christ is still the answer to your heartache over that
child. Maybe it is only in allowing you to let the past go. Maybe it is in
allowing you to receive his forgiveness so you don’t wind up in an old folks’
home one day reliving regrets thirty years in the past.
There is not just one blessing. Our Father’s mercies are
never exhausted. Who knows, maybe he’ll even transform that wayward child. After all,
it is in his nature to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, though rarely in our time frame, and almost never in precisely
the ways we imagine.
No comments :
Post a Comment