That’s a very binary question. There are a few other possibilities worth exploring.
Some people enter into a relationship looking for neither love nor lust. I know of several women
who, in their mid-thirties, settled for a man they neither loved nor lusted
after primarily because they wanted children and didn’t want to raise them
alone. Mostly, they felt out of time and out of other options.
Not ideal, but those are definitely real feelings. And there are lots more.