
“I know exactly how you feel.”
How many times have your heard that line,
or a line like it, when you were expressing some personal sorrow or woe
to another?
And was there ever a doubt in your mind
that when the person said it to you, they were wrong?
They had never been you. They had not faced
your situation. If they meant well, they were imagining themselves in your
place, maybe; more likely, they were transferring some experience of their own
and placing it upon you, pushing your real experiences aside in favor of
remembering their own. They were feeling empathetic with themselves, not with you.
And in some cases, they were not meaning
well at all.